You have to realize, the real reason you've wanted success is to simply feel good about yourself. Subconsciously, you believe If you accomplish the things you've set out to do, you finally get to see yourself at your full potential. That's a worthwhile desire, but it has nothing do do with the money or possessions you've acquired. Those things are just the things you're using to validate the self fulfillment you've always wanted.

But as I said before, you don't need to use "results" to feel good about who you are. You can use any measurement you want. What if you decided to change your goal from making a million dollars on YouTube in a year, to simply focusing on shooting a short video today. Let go of the "million dollars"...if it happens, it happens, but stop making it a destination.

Instead, make a new destination. Something shorter and easier to accomplish. What can you do "today" that will only take a couple of hours?

What if you decide to just set-up and shoot 1 short video? This is an attainable goal that you have complete control over being able to accomplish. Don't obligate yourself to anything else, just challenge yourself to finish this one thing today.

Believe it or not, this is how you "win". You may not see it now, but once you try this you will be surprised at how good it feels to finally set a goal and complete it. It doesn't matter that it is small, what matters is how you "feel".

Now you may be thinking: "It's not like I've never finished something before. I remember feeling glad to be done, but nothing life changing."

Here's the difference, things you have pushed yourself to finish before have been held in your mind as just one step on a journey to a much larger goal. This perspective makes each goal seem insignificant and reminds you how far away you are from where you want to be.

This puts you into that "lacking" mindset because every day you haven't achieved that larger goal feels like failure no matter how much you get done. You have to eliminate the destination. That is the source of your unhappiness.

By focusing on what you finish today and stopping there, you allow your life to unfold the way it wants to unfold. It's like putting a brick in a path your building every day. You don't know where the path is going to take you, but it's better than where you are.

You finally get to feel good about yourself for a change. This is powerful. This is how you "build" something.

Now do this every day. I guarantee after 1 week you probably will have accomplished more toward your original "goal" than you have in the past year. This isn't a race, so you don't need to welcome back our old friend "shame" if you think you aren't doing enough.

Take on daily goals that challenge you, but are also completely "doable". Consistency is the key here. Those daily "wins" stack up faster than you think and use them to feel the confidence and satisfaction you're looking for. Plus, you can enjoy this feeling now, you don't need to wait for the million dollars and the feeling of failure every day you don't have it.

The Pain/Reward Cycle

Redefining A “Win”

Module 1 - Finding Your Bearings

Self Awareness: The foundation to begin healing.

The Underestimated Role of Shame in ADHD

Module 2 - Surrender to a Better Life

Module 3 - Action Plan - Doing What Works And Feeling Good About It.